You affect the people around you and the people around you affect you. The goal is to limit the affect people have on you. Your actions do cause effect, but you can't control the behaviors of other people. They will react as they deem necessary, it's really up to them. If you use sound judgment in the action, you don't have to worry about the reaction. The behaviors of others is out of your control, the reaction of others is out of your control... but your actions and reactions are yours.
Conversely, you must remain calm when interacting with others. You can't control other people's reactions, but you surely can control yours. This you can control. Enjoy what you can control and dismiss what you can't. Actions cause consequence and reaction.
Reactions involve two parts. Immediate react and logical reaction. You can't control other people reactions and you can't worry about that immediate reaction. Call it impulse, emotion, knee-jerk, gut... what ever you want but it comes down to an instant reaction. If you can't control theirs, control yours.
Remain unaffected. The people who anger you control you. We all have emotion, check it. We all instantly react, curve it. Give it time. Even if you have to force it... gain perspective.
Take other people's feelings into account when you behave. This will limit conflict. Don't be petty,spiteful, or hateful with others and don't surround yourself with people who are that way with you. Life only happens once, treat others kindly.
Control the things you can and discount the things you can't. If you worry about the things you can't control and fail to control the things you can... you have no power over yourself. Maintain power and good luck. There is no handbook for life, just trial and error... so do you best.
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