How you became you...

Quite often people find themselves stuck in a certain routine. Whether they like the routine or not, they are comfortable enough with it to stick with it. But what if they don't like their routine anymore? What if they wanna break away from their routine? What if they don't know how?

Psychology tells us that people fall into routines and enjoy being comfortable because in a nutshell... it's normal.

Within a social circle people develop their role and define their place. When you first enter the group, you behave a certain way and gain social acceptance because of it. That very social acceptance leads you to continue to behave in that same manner as before to further the acceptance. Think of it like a puzzle, you eventually become a piece.

People maintain character whether they like it or not in order to fit in. The funny guy will always joke because the first time he did, people laughed. The nice girl will be nice because the first time she helped someone out, they thanked her. The leader will lead and followers will follow because the first time this dynamic occurred everything went smoothly. After enough time, you role become established.

This may all seem very vague but I wrote it like that for a reason. The model I described happens in all aspects of life and in any and every relationship you have. This dynamic is repeated continuously and circles infinitely overlap. This is how your personality is developed. This is how you became you...